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Why I'm afraid to start dating

  1. I got nothing to talk about
  2. I'm too boring
  3. I don't know if I like you
  4. I don't know if you like me

These are all dumb reasons but they're the reason why I don't date.

I'm not boring, I've got lots to talk about The question is whether or not the other person finds it interesting. And that's what dating is for to find out.

See dating as a game Dating is a game in which you have to find out if you like someone. If you don't, no worries, that happens.

If she doesn't like you, no man overboard It's better to figure that out as quickly as possible, and don't waste several dates. Be honest with each other and just stop dating if you don't like each other.

Sex on the first date After a long while dry it can be a scary thought to have sex again. But you don't have to have sex on the first date! Just focus on having a good time, and don't worry about the sex.

It's Covid time, no dating allowed Fuck that.

Getting rejected It's a natural fear to fear being rejected because you could get kicked in the nuts or worse: get a bad social status in your whole tribe: much less success with other wimen too. However, this is not the case anymore. We don't live in tribes and women aren't that aggressive in general. So just try and not give a f*ck about this fear. Neglect it. It's not real anymore.

6/5/2020
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